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Are Your Sink & Stove Arguing?

If you’ve been in my tribe for awhile you may have heard me say that your home both reflects and affects you. Everything is energy and the things in your home and the way they are positioned impact you.

How do you know if your sink and stove are arguing?

Look at the placement of the sink and stove in your kitchen. If the sink is directly across from the stove, this is considered an “arguing” sink and stove. This is energetically challenging because it can literally cause arguing in or outside of the home. Many clients don’t mention arguing as an issue, but when I point out the arguing sink and stove and ask them, they agree that they do argue and often right in the kitchen between the sink and stove! Once we remedied the issue, the arguing subsided.

There are two options for using Feng Shui to remedy this challenging situation:

1. Place a round rug between the sink and stove or place a rug in front of either the sink or stove that has a pattern with circles on it.

2. Hang a crystal from the ceiling between the sink and stove. A 20 mm crystal is a good size. The crystal should be round and made with at least 30% lead (this has a balancing energy to it). The crystal should hang freely and can be hung with a 9″ red (lucky color) thread or 9″ fishing line. In Feng Shui the number 9 is auspicious and is about reaching new heights (and who doesn’t want to do that?!)

The round energy of the rug or crystal will disperse the arguing between the sink and stove and balance the energy in the space.

If arguing continues to be an issue after the adjustment is placed, please reach out to me as there are other circumstances within the home that can also contribute the energy of arguments.

I would also recommend that you energetically clear your space if there has been a lot of arguing in your home (either during or before you moved there, as in the case of a divorced couple having lived there prior to you). Watch this video for instructions on how to clear your space with sage.

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Kids Rooms Are Their World

Applying Feng Shui to children’s bedrooms helps create happier, more successful and well-balanced youth. It’s important to remember that kids rooms are their world – like their “home” and unless they are very little, like under 4 years old, you don’t want to make changes in their rooms without their involvement.

Similar to adults, we want to make certain that children feel safe and supported within the family and within their lives. As with adults, we create a feeling of support for children with a solid headboard.

Slatted headboards have a cutting energy, which can lead to health and other issues, so if your child has one of these, you will want to remedy this. Several stores, including Ikea, carry headboard covers that slip over the top of an existing headboard. Another option is to weave material through the slats to create a solid look. Or, you may hang a blanket or quilt over the top of the headboard.

If your child does not have any headboard at all you can, of course purchase one. Or you can create one by:

Painting a square one on the wall behind their bed
Painting the entire wall behind the bed a different color than the rest of the walls
Hanging a banner, tapestry, flag or other material behind the bed

Bunk Beds

In Feng Shui, we are not a fan of bunk beds for a number of reasons. For the child in the bottom bunk, it can feel overwhelming as the heaviness of the one above hangs over them or the feeling that the upper bunk could collapse upon them. For the child in the upper bunk, there is usually not a lot of space between the bed and the ceiling, which again gives the child the feeling of overwhelm and a limited view of life and the world.

If you must have bunk beds for space reasons, use these remedies. For the upper bunk, hang something with depth above the bed – I love the glow in the dark stars – to expand the space above the bed and give the illusion of more expansiveness. For the lower bunk, a poster of scenery or a picture with depth, as long as it is calm and soothing, can be hung under the top bunk above where the child lays. This again will help expand the space and leave the child feeling as if they can breathe again!

Unlike adults, children do not need two nightstands and they can have bookshelves in their bedrooms. I do recommend the books be waist high or below, however, to prevent the children from feeling overwhelmed or like things could fall on them.

Lastly, to help your children get a good night’s sleep I recommend closing closet doors before bed. The open doors are a lot of energy rushing at them while they are trying to calm their minds. I also recommend choosing plain solid color sheets and avoiding action figures or cartoon characters, which are very active and do not allow children to relax into their dream state as easily.

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Doors Affect Your Voice & More

In Feng Shui, doors represent the voice of adults in the home (windows are the voice of children – see more tips for children in Back to School Feng Shui Tips). Your doors may be having a bigger effect on your life than you know.

Door issues can cause:

• Arguing
• Complaining or whining
• Confusion
• Lack of direction
• Voices to be silenced
• Blocked energy
• Money going “out the door”
• Relationship conflict
• Slanted vision of life or self
• Opportunities to be limited

One of my clients was a couple struggling with Career issues. He was looking for a new job and she was uncertain about her career path. Balancing an issue with the doors in their Career sector had amazing results for them. The day after they made the adjustment, he received a call back for a third job interview and subsequently got the job. A short while later, she was offered a new job opportunity that she wasn’t even looking for. Balancing the energy in your space CAN shift what’s happening in your life!

Below are a few common door issues and cures to help you start using your “voice” more effectively. Remember, intention is key so focusing on what you want is as important as placing the cure.

Having too many doors in an area can cause confusion or lack of direction in that part of your life. Hang a small round crystal (30% lead) or place a round rug in the middle of the doors. This will help balance the energy and create clarity, focus and direction.
Have you or others in your household been complaining? Check for squeaking or creaking doors. A little WD40 will go a long ways to stop the complaining “chatter” of the doors and people.
Do your front door and back door align (where if you rolled a ball from one it would go out the other)? You may have plenty of money coming in, but this will door issue will lead to it going right out the back door. Place something round anywhere between the two doors (round rug, crystal, bowl, table, etc.) This will deflect the escaping energy and help you save and keep more of what you are earning.
Does your new neighbor have a sliding glass door, but no deck? This is considered a “dead” door because it doesn’t lead anywhere. Buy them a sun catcher or a mirror to hang on the door to remedy this dead energy.

Problems with doors lead to an inability to voice your opinions and express yourself. Make sure all of your doors can open fully taking care not to store things behind them. Read more tips for your front door in Shut The Front Door.

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The Energetic Challenge of Ashes

Keeping ashes in your home is a Feng Shui Challenge

Many people keep the ashes of their loved ones in their homes and often they are placing them in a location within the home that is energetically harming them. The energy of non-living things (not only ashes, but also dried flowers and other “dead” items) can create many difficulties — everything from lost opportunities and income to health and relationship challenges.

Dead things and ashes, whether human or pet remains, represent stuck or stagnant energy and it is best to remove them from your home. If you have dead trees in your yard, remove them. If you have plants that are dead or dying and cannot be revived, remove them.

Note: If the plant was placed as a Feng Shui adjustment and died, it has likely taken the energetic “hit” for you. Thank it for it’s service to you and replace the plant with a bigger or more expensive one.

Remove dried flowers unless they have special significance to you, such as a wedding bouquet. Consider whether you can remember the event through pictures with the living flowers instead. If you wish to keep the dried flowers, preserve and honor them by placing them in a shadow box or other container.

Many of my clients do not wish to remove the ashes of their loved ones from their home. In these cases, I make recommendations on where the ashes can be placed to do the least harm. Let’s first be clear about where ashes should not be placed within the home:

In the Bedroom or outside the bedroom door. The bedroom is your place of rest, rejuvenation and romance. Keeping ashes here can negatively affect your health as well as your romantic relationships, where the deceased loved one is literally coming between you and a vibrant life with those who are still living and with your own body that is still alive.
In the Dining Room. The dining room is where you take in food to nourish your body. We want living things in this space to signify life-giving energy to your body.
In the Kitchen. The kitchen is where your food is cooked, which also nourishes your body and the stove is located here, which is symbolizes your wealth so keeping ashes in this location can affect both your health and your finances.
Near the Front Door. As you’ve read in my previous blogs, the front door is considered the “Mouth of Chi” where all the energy and opportunities come into your home. Keeping ashes, or other non-living things in this area can push opportunities away and prevent abundance from flowing to you.

Ashes you wish to keep should be placed in a common area, like a family room or living room and well away from the front door, kitchen, dining room or your bedrooms.

Do you wish you could connect with your loved one who has passed? I can help you with this! Through my work as an Angel Card reader and psychic I’m able to connect you with your loved ones. I’ve found these souls have beautiful messages for you and are so happy when I’m able to relay them and share the ways they are present in your everyday life. To learn more about my Angel Reading services and book your reading visit my website.

There is a special Feng Shui adjustment called the Sealing the Doors Ceremony that is beneficial and recommended to be performed when:

You are keeping ashes in the home
You’ve had bad luck in a house
You’ve been robbed
Occupants are feeling unsafe
Your home is located across from a church, cemetery or funeral home
You suspect other living spirits are present within your house

To obtain a copy of the Sealing the Doors adjustment, please email me at Kim@FindingYourFiji.com. I will request that you honor the Red Envelope tradition in exchange for receiving the adjustment.

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Feng Shui for LOVE

Whether you are in a committed relationship or still searching for The One,” Feng Shui paves the way for more harmonious relationships. Feng Shui helps you recognize how your space reflects your life and encourages you to create a new relationship with your space. In the relationship arena, Feng Shui can help:

Bring balance, equality and harmony
Get the sparks flying again
Attract your soul mate
Reduce/eliminate arguments
Improve relationships with family, friends and coworkers
Deepen your relationship with yourself or creator

There are two main areas in your home we look at to improve relationships. One area is the partnership corner. (If you’re new to Feng Shui, click here to read my blog on Feng Shui’s mental map, the Bagua, to learn how your space reflects your life.) The other area is your bedroom, no matter where it’s located in your home. In this article, I’m focusing primarily on your bedroom. Ideally, this should be your favorite room in the house, an oasis that is both romantic and peaceful.

Let’s first talk about the things to AVOID in your bedroom:

1. Clutter ~ As in every area of your home or office, clutter represents stuck energy. It’s also distracting. So, if you’re trying to get your partner in the right mood, removing clutter from the bedroom will help them feel less overwhelmed and more relaxed.
2. Dirt ~ This can represent staleness in your relationship. To keep your Partnership fresh and new feeling, keep your bedroom dusted and clean. You will sleep better too!
3. Dead Things ~ One client I worked with had pictures of dead relatives decorating a corner of her bedroom! Sometimes we place things in spaces without really think about the metaphorical message we are sending. You want things that are alive and thriving in your bedroom and Partnership area of your home. Remove any dried flowers from your bedroom (and home) as well.
4. Pictures of your kids and other people ~ Even if the relatives are living, we do not want them invading our bedroom, right? And kids certainly are important in our life, but again, we do not need them coming between us and our partner. The bedroom is your personal partnership space.
5. Toys and stuffed animals ~ We want to be an adult in our relationships so childish things do not belong in the bedroom. If they are keepsakes or mementos that you love, they can be placed in another area of the home – perhaps in the Creativity and Children area.

Next, let’s talk about the things you DO WANT in your bedroom. What can you do to get the love lava flowing again or to attract your soul mate?

Two equal size/weight night stands ~ This symbolizes equality in the relationship and is particularly important if you currently do not have a partner. What does it say if one partner has a large dresser on their side and the other a small nightstand? Or if one partner has no nightstand at all? Will they have much say in the relationship? Matching lamps will bring additional balance and harmony to your love connection.
Art symbolizing what you want in your relationship ~ Look at the art on your bedroom walls. Is it romantic? Or do you have pictures of a frozen lake? Is it peaceful and copacetic or showing conflict? Are there single people or animals depicted in the paintings? That single cowboy picture not only shows a desert, but the guy is alone, right? That leads me to the next tip…
Pairs of things ~ Pairs represent partnership and intentionally placing pairs of things in your bedroom will help balance your relationship.
A current picture of the two of you, if you’re in a partnership, should be placed in your bedroom and will help solidify your bond. Sometimes I recommend a wedding picture be placed here too, to help you remember how you felt when you fell in love.
Vibrant, living things ~ To really promote a healthy sex life, place 9 lush plants in the bedroom. Then, make sure you keep them alive!
Add Pink and Fire ~ The partnership color is pink and adding a dash of it here or there intentionally will boost your budding or rekindling relationship. Adding the element of fire, which is all about passion, will further heat things up. You can use the color red to represent fire or physical fire (like candles) or triangle shapes. We don’t like fireplaces in bedrooms, because it’s too much energy to allow you to sleep well. However, the Partnership area of your main level is a perfect place for a fireplace.

Making changes in your Partnership area and bedroom with intention means taking time to really think about what you want to cultivate in your relationships.

Your bedroom is a key Feng Shui area. It can affect not only your relationships, but also your sleep, your health, and your mind. To bring more harmony into your relationships, your home and your life, I offer Feng Shui Bedroom consults

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Clearing Clutter in “Disguise”

What if your space is pretty clear of clutter and you’re still not attracting the things you most want into your life?

Then it’s time to address clutter that’s disguised as something else. Perhaps it’s a keepsake, like your children’s art. Or maybe it’s something you paid a lot of money for and never used. You don’t want to donate it and yet can’t find anyone who wants to buy it.

Last weekend I hosted a Feng Shui Dream Board workshop for a small group of clients. We were creating a talisman for our dreams – something to remind us daily of what we want to draw into our lives. We talked a lot about the energy of the things in our homes and how things can keep us stuck and block us from attracting the very things we most desire.

One woman, I’ll call her Sarah, has held onto a wedding dress she purchased many years ago and never wore. She had tried to donate the dress to various organizations and they wouldn’t take it because it was over 5 years old. Sarah paid a lot of money for the dress and didn’t want to donate it to Goodwill and have someone wearing it as a Halloween costume.

This discussion triggered questions for me about the things I’m hanging onto. For instance, I have a huge stock of beads from a handcrafted jewelry business I ran for 10 years. I’ve sold some of the beads at various sales over the past 2 years. However, I have not made a concentrated effort to locate a buyer for the entire stock. It made me wonder, “What is my attachment to it?” What surfaced as I explored this question was an underlying fear of not having that business to fall back on should my life purpose/dream job of Shift Master not work out.

I asked Sarah, “If you met the man of your dreams, how would he feel about you hanging onto a wedding dress from a prior engagement?”

Both my beads and the wedding dress are keeping us stuck and blocking us from attracting what we really want. Often, we fabricate stories about the things in our lives and why we are hanging onto them. There is usually some deeper meaning, some fear about letting go of what’s comfortable. What’s comfortable may not actually feel comfortable; however, it is what we know. Sarah knows how to be single. I know how to run a jewelry business.

We may also fear opening our hearts and lives to what we really want. What if we aren’t successful in our next relationship or our soul purpose business doesn’t work out?

Sometimes we fear success even more than failure.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest
fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light,
not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves,
Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?…”

Marianne Williamson

What if we find our soul mate and fall in love? What if our business is outrageously successful? Will that change us? Will the people in our lives (our single girlfriends, family & other friends) be okay with it? Can we really handle having our heart’s desire?

Ideas on How to Release “Disguised” Clutter

1. Identify it
Walk around your home, room to room, and make a list of things you are hanging onto that you don’t use or don’t love. If it isn’t useful or doesn’t bring you joy, why do you have it?

2. Ditch the “Just in Case” thinking and employ the “Just in Time” method
Rather than hanging onto items just in case you might need or use them someday, have faith that what you need in the future will come to you at the perfect time or that you’ll be able to buy a new one!

3. Come to terms with the feelings around these things
Why are you really holding onto it? To keep your children young? Because it represents your unfulfilled dreams? To have a plan B in case Plan A doesn’t work out?

4. Think about how it will feel to have the added space and breathing room
Letting go of the things you don’t love or use brings open space to your environment. This creates a vacuum, which will draw the things you really want into your life

5. Take a picture of it and then toss it, donate it or sell it

6. Make a collage or scrapbook pages
One year for Mother’s Day I had my boys do this for me as their gift. I had a huge box for each of them of things I had saved. I asked them to choose their favorites and put them in a scrapbook album for me. It was a wonderful gift!

7. Create something new with it
If you have kept several of your children’s favorite t-shirts or clothes, you can cut pieces from them and create a memento quilt that they can use and enjoy.

8. Ask friends for ideas of what to do with your “disguised” clutter
Share this article on FB with what “disguised” clutter you found, ask for suggestions and then share what you’re going to do with it.

9. LET GO!
Toss it, donate it, sell it, give it to a friend or return it to its owner

Can we move forward… really focus and put our attention and intention on what we want if we are holding onto a piece of our past? These things, too, are talismans. Like a cog in a wheel, they keep us stuck and anchor us in the past.

Sarah admitted she probably wouldn’t ever wear the wedding dress because she imagines the wedding with her soul mate being on a beach. I know I will never go back to making jewelry for a living. Why would I? I LOVE what I do. I have my dream job. I don’t need a Plan B.

Another woman at the workshop had a great idea for Sarah’s wedding dress. She’s connecting her to an organization that makes burial gowns for babies.

What about my beads? Within 1 day of coming to terms with my beads and letting go of my Plan B, I found a buyer for my entire stock!

Small changes, even in your mindset can trigger huge shifts in your life.

What are you hanging onto that is keeping you stuck?
Let it go so what you want can flow quickly to you!

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