The Energetic Challenge of Ashes

Keeping ashes in your home is a Feng Shui Challenge

Many people keep the ashes of their loved ones in their homes and often they are placing them in a location within the home that is energetically harming them. The energy of non-living things (not only ashes, but also dried flowers and other “dead” items) can create many difficulties — everything from lost opportunities and income to health and relationship challenges.

Dead things and ashes, whether human or pet remains, represent stuck or stagnant energy and it is best to remove them from your home. If you have dead trees in your yard, remove them. If you have plants that are dead or dying and cannot be revived, remove them.

Note: If the plant was placed as a Feng Shui adjustment and died, it has likely taken the energetic “hit” for you. Thank it for it’s service to you and replace the plant with a bigger or more expensive one.

Remove dried flowers unless they have special significance to you, such as a wedding bouquet. Consider whether you can remember the event through pictures with the living flowers instead. If you wish to keep the dried flowers, preserve and honor them by placing them in a shadow box or other container.

Many of my clients do not wish to remove the ashes of their loved ones from their home. In these cases, I make recommendations on where the ashes can be placed to do the least harm. Let’s first be clear about where ashes should not be placed within the home:

1. In the Bedroom or outside the bedroom door. The bedroom is your place of rest, rejuvenation and romance. Keeping ashes here can negatively affect your health as well as your romantic relationships, where the deceased loved one is literally coming between you and a vibrant life with those who are still living and with your own body that is still alive.
2. In the Dining Room. The dining room is where you take in food to nourish your body. We want living things in this space to signify life-giving energy to your body.
3. In the Kitchen. The kitchen is where your food is cooked, which also nourishes your body and the stove is located here, which is symbolizes your wealth so keeping ashes in this location can affect both your health and your finances.
4. Near the Front Door. As you’ve read in my previous blogs, the front door is considered the “Mouth of Chi” where all the energy and opportunities come into your home. Keeping ashes, or other non-living things in this area can push opportunities away and prevent abundance from flowing to you.

 

 

 

Ashes you wish to keep should be placed in a common area, like a family room or living room and well away from the front door, kitchen, dining room or your bedrooms.

Do you wish you could connect with your loved one who has passed? I can help you with this! Through my work as an Angel Card reader and psychic I’m able to connect you with your loved ones. I’ve found these souls have beautiful messages for you and are so happy when I’m able to relay them and share the ways they are present in your everyday life. To learn more about my Angel Reading services and book your reading visit my website.

There is a special Feng Shui adjustment called the Sealing the Doors Ceremony that is beneficial and recommended to be performed when:

• You are keeping ashes in the home
• You’ve had bad luck in a house
• You’ve been robbed
• Occupants are feeling unsafe
• Your home is located across from a church, cemetery or funeral home
• You suspect other living spirits are present within your house

To obtain a copy of the Sealing the Doors adjustment, please email me at Kim@FindingYourFiji.com. I will request that you honor the Red Envelope tradition in exchange for receiving the adjustment.
Sealing the Doors Kits are also available for purchase on my Finding Your Fiji Etsy site.

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Feng Shui can be confusing. Do you need help figuring out your Bagua? Do you want help determining what to do within your home to boost the power of your intentions for Health, Career, Finances and Relationships?

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Clear Clutter Once and For All!

Clear Clutter Once and For All using the KonMari Method of Tidying Up!

Clutter is not Feng Shui’s friend. I’ve written about this topic before in Do You Need a Clutter Buster? and Clearing Clutter in Disguise. There are great and useful tips in those blogs.

So why am I bringing it up again?

1. Because despite my best efforts, I still have some clutter and I know you do too.

2. I discovered an amazing decluttering method that actually works and had me clearing bags and bags of clutter from places in my home I didn’t think were cluttered!

3. Clutter represents stuck energy in Feng Shui. It energetically drains you, lowers your vibration and can cause weight gain, fatigue, brain fog and many other issues.

4. I want to help you allow the energy to FLOW in your space. And, with the clutter cleared, your Feng Shui adjustments will be much more effective! Essentially, doing this work will create a vacuum attracting everything you want right into your virtual vortex.

Marie Kondo, author of the Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, has spent a lifetime of trial and error figuring out the most effective method for decluttering your space. She had literally been obsessed with tidying (don’t you just love that word?) since she was a little girl.

How is the KonMari decluttering method different?

1. Tidying (or decluttering) only needs to be done once. Marie’s clients have never had a relapse which is proof her system works. Having only done the first 2 parts of the system (clothes and books) I can already see how this works and more importantly FEEL the difference in my space.

2. The KonMari Method shifts the way you look at and experience the things in your home, teaching you how to make decisions with your heart, not your head!

3. Marie’s method honors your possessions by caring for them and finding a permanent place for everything in you home to “live”

Breakdown of the KonMari Method

A) Tidying involves 2 actions:

1. Discarding
2. Deciding where to store the items you choose to keep

B) Clear clutter by category, not by place. I mentioned this briefly in my Do You Need a Clutter Buster blog. However, Marie’s book breaks this down for you by providing a specific order:

1. Clothes
2. Books
3. Papers
4. Miscellaneous
5. Mementos

C) Discarding
The KonMari Method introduces a twist to this time-worn decluttering tradition. Instead of focusing on what to throw away, you are focusing on decising what to keep.  And here’s the golden nuggest of advice to take from this book and blog, if you don’t read further:

1. Take everything in that category out whereever it may be in the house and put it all in one place to sort.

2. Decide by picking up, touching and holding every single item and feeling what energy this sparks for you. You ONLY keep the item if it “sparks joy!” This means that you don’t think about whether you wore it yesterday or have never worn it, how much it cost, who gave it to you and so on. The only standard you use in deciding whether to keep something is if you LOVE it.

I also like Marie’s method because she thanks the items being discarded for their service. Even if you never used something, it has fulfilled it’s role. It may have brought you joy when you purchased it or when you received it or it may have been useful in some way. Someone else will love this item or if it’s broken, it may be time for it’s retirement.

D) Storage
You’ve heard this before – A place for everything and everything in it’s place, right? The way Marie determines where things should go is unique because:

1. All things of the same category are stored together. Take safey pins, for example. How many of these to you have all over the house? Pulling them all out and putting them in one spot helps you see how much you have (and need) of things. I personally discovered a stash of toilet paper I had totally forgotten about. Needless to say, I won’t need to buy that for a while!

2. Placing things where you put them away, not where you use them. It takes only a moment to grab something from it’s storage space, yet not knowing where you put something can cost you literally hours of time searching for it.

3. Marie likens your items not having a home to you not having an address. Your things feel lost and uncared for. They don’t wear as well, look as good and often will break.

Folding
Marie recommends folding clothes so that you are able to see all the edges in the drawer. Folding clothes helps you see stains and tears and shows you care for your clothes so they will last longer.

Fold each piece into a simple smooth rectangle by folding the sides in first, then in 1/2 or 1/3.  Folded clothes when standing on edge should fit the height of the drawer. See Marie’s book or You tube videos for further instructions on how to fold. Fold socks in half and then in thirds with toes inside. Rolling them stretches out the bands.

Sock drawer

Workout wear

Sweatshirts

Arrange clothes in your closet (the ones that seem to like to hang better) so they rise to the right. This means the heavier, longer and darker color clothes will be on the left.

Seasonal suggestion
Marie recommends keeping all of your clothes out (once you clear those you don’t love, you will have room) and simply organizing them by weight.

One of the key Feng Shui principles is that everything is energy. Your possessions, like your home itself, need to be treated with care. Making sure you surround yourself only with things you love and making sure everything has a home shows appreciation, respect and love for your things and results in those things loving you back by lasting longer and looking better.

Want more details, buy Marie’s book here!  It’s a quick read and literally can change your life. #FindingYourFiji #FengShui #Clutter #Organizing #energy #drains

Kim Julen, Shift Master
WWS Certified Feng Shui Practitioner
Certified Angel Card Reader
www.FindingYourFiji.com
651-230-7361

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Feng Shui for LOVE

Whether you are in a committed relationship or still searching for The One,” Feng Shui paves the way for more harmonious relationships. Feng Shui helps you recognize how your space reflects your life and encourages you to create a new relationship with your space. In the relationship arena, Feng Shui can help:

• Bring balance, equality and harmony
• Get the sparks flying again
• Attract your soul mate
• Reduce/eliminate arguments
• Improve relationships with family, friends and coworkers
• Deepen your relationship with yourself or creator

There are two main areas in your home we look at to improve relationships. One area is the partnership corner. (If you’re new to Feng Shui, click here to read my blog on Feng Shui’s mental map, the Bagua, to learn how your space reflects your life.) The other area is your bedroom, no matter where it’s located in your home.  In this article, I’m focusing primarily on your bedroom. Ideally, this should be your favorite room in the house, an oasis that is both romantic and peaceful.

Let’s first talk about the things to AVOID in your bedroom:

1. Clutter ~ As in every area of your home or office, clutter represents stuck energy. It’s also distracting. So, if you’re trying to get your partner in the right mood, removing clutter from the bedroom will help them feel less overwhelmed and more relaxed.
2. Dirt ~ This can represent staleness in your relationship. To keep your Partnership fresh and new feeling, keep your bedroom dusted and clean. You will sleep better too!
3. Dead Things ~ One client I worked with had pictures of dead relatives decorating a corner of her bedroom! Sometimes we place things in spaces without really think about the metaphorical message we are sending. You want things that are alive and thriving in your bedroom and Partnership area of your home. Remove any dried flowers from your bedroom (and home) as well.
4. Pictures of your kids and other people ~ Even if the relatives are living, we do not want them invading our bedroom, right? And kids certainly are important in our life, but again, we do not need them coming between us and our partner. The bedroom is your personal partnership space.
5. Toys and stuffed animals ~ We want to be an adult in our relationships so childish things do not belong in the bedroom. If they are keepsakes or mementos that you love, they can be placed in another area of the home – perhaps in the Creativity and Children area.

Next, let’s talk about the things you DO WANT in your bedroom. What can you do to get the love lava flowing again or to attract your soul mate?

1. Two equal size/weight night stands ~ This symbolizes equality in the relationship and is particularly important if you currently do not have a partner. What does it say if one partner has a large dresser on their side and the other a small nightstand? Or if one partner has no nightstand at all? Will they have much say in the relationship? Matching lamps will bring additional balance and harmony to your love connection.
2. Art symbolizing what you want in your relationship ~ Look at the art on your bedroom walls. Is it romantic? Or do you have pictures of a frozen lake? Is it peaceful and copacetic or showing conflict? Are there single people or animals depicted in the paintings? That single cowboy picture not only shows a desert, but the guy is alone, right? That leads me to the next tip…
3. Pairs of things ~ Pairs represent partnership and intentionally placing pairs of things in your bedroom will help balance your relationship.
4. A current picture of the two of you, if you’re in a partnership, should be placed in your bedroom and will help solidify your bond. Sometimes I recommend a wedding picture be placed here too, to help you remember how you felt when you fell in love.
5. Vibrant, living things ~ To really promote a healthy sex life, place 9 lush plants in the bedroom. Then, make sure you keep them alive!
6. Add Pink and Fire ~ The partnership color is pink and adding a dash of it here or there intentionally will boost your budding or rekindling relationship. Adding the element of fire, which is all about passion, will further heat things up. You can use the color red to represent fire or physical fire (like candles) or triangle shapes. We don’t like fireplaces in bedrooms, because it’s too much energy to allow you to sleep well. However, the Partnership area of your main level is a perfect place for a fireplace.

Making changes in your Partnership area and bedroom with intention means taking time to really think about what you want to cultivate in your relationships.

Your bedroom is a key Feng Shui area. It can affect not only your relationships, but also your sleep, your health, and your mind. To bring more harmony into your relationships, your home and your life, I offer Feng Shui Bedroom consults via Skype as well as complete Life Shift Home Consultations and Booming Business Consultations. For more information check out my website at http://www.findingyourfiji.com/FENGSHUI

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