Whether you are in a committed relationship or still searching for The One,” Feng Shui paves the way for more harmonious relationships. Feng Shui helps you recognize how your space reflects your life and encourages you to create a new relationship with your space. In the relationship arena, Feng Shui can help:
- Bring balance, equality and harmony
- Get the sparks flying again
- Attract your soul mate
- Reduce/eliminate arguments
- Improve relationships with family, friends and coworkers
- Deepen your relationship with yourself or creator
There are two main areas in your home we look at to improve relationships. One area is the partnership corner. (If you’re new to Feng Shui, click here to read my blog on Feng Shui’s mental map, the Bagua, to learn how your space reflects your life.) The other area is your bedroom, no matter where it’s located in your home. In this article, I’m focusing primarily on your bedroom. Ideally, this should be your favorite room in the house, an oasis that is both romantic and peaceful.
Let’s first talk about the things to AVOID in your bedroom:
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- Clutter ~ As in every area of your home or office, clutter represents stuck energy. It’s also distracting. So, if you’re trying to get your partner in the right mood, removing clutter from the bedroom will help them feel less overwhelmed and more relaxed.
- Dirt ~ This can represent staleness in your relationship. To keep your Partnership fresh and new feeling, keep your bedroom dusted and clean. You will sleep better too!
- Dead Things ~ One client I worked with had pictures of dead relatives decorating a corner of her bedroom! Sometimes we place things in spaces without really think about the metaphorical message we are sending. You want things that are alive and thriving in your bedroom and Partnership area of your home. Remove any dried flowers from your bedroom (and home) as well.
- Pictures of your kids and other people ~ Even if the relatives are living, we do not want them invading our bedroom, right? And kids certainly are important in our life, but again, we do not need them coming between us and our partner. The bedroom is your personal partnership space.
- Toys and stuffed animals ~ We want to be an adult in our relationships so childish things do not belong in the bedroom. If they are keepsakes or mementos that you love, they can be placed in another area of the home – perhaps in the Creativity and Children area.
Next, let’s talk about the things you DO WANT in your bedroom. What can you do to get the love lava flowing again or to attract your soul mate?
- Two equal size/weight night stands ~ This symbolizes equality in the relationship and is particularly important if you currently do not have a partner. What does it say if one partner has a large dresser on their side and the other a small nightstand? Or if one partner has no nightstand at all? Will they have much say in the relationship? Matching lamps will bring additional balance and harmony to your love connection.
- Art symbolizing what you want in your relationship ~ Look at the art on your bedroom walls. Is it romantic? Or do you have pictures of a frozen lake? Is it peaceful and copacetic or showing conflict? Are there single people or animals depicted in the paintings? That single cowboy picture not only shows a desert, but the guy is alone, right? That leads me to the next tip…
- Pairs of things ~ Pairs represent partnership and intentionally placing pairs of things in your bedroom will help balance your relationship.
- A current picture of the two of you, if you’re in a partnership, should be placed in your bedroom and will help solidify your bond. Sometimes I recommend a wedding picture be placed here too, to help you remember how you felt when you fell in love.
- Vibrant, living things ~ To really promote a healthy sex life, place 9 lush plants in the bedroom. Then, make sure you keep them alive!
- Add Pink and Fire ~ The partnership color is pink and adding a dash of it here or there intentionally will boost your budding or rekindling relationship. Adding the element of fire, which is all about passion, will further heat things up. You can use the color red to represent fire or physical fire (like candles) or triangle shapes. We don’t like fireplaces in bedrooms, because it’s too much energy to allow you to sleep well. However, the Partnership area of your main level is a perfect place for a fireplace.
Making changes in your Partnership area and bedroom with intention means taking time to really think about what you want to cultivate in your relationships.
Your bedroom is a key Feng Shui area. It can affect not only your relationships, but also your sleep, your health, and your mind. To bring more harmony into your relationships, your home and your life, I offer Feng Shui Bedroom consults
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Finding Your Fiji 
Hi, I love your article it makes me want to go home and make some changes now! But, I thought having plants in the bedroom was a big no-no because at night they emit CO2 and take in O2, where we are then competing for air. Katie Weber, a feng shui consultant I adore also says not to have plants in the bedroom because they are negative and “use up body energy” at night.
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I’m so glad you’ve learned some new tips from this article! I adore Katie too – we both belong to the International Feng Shui Guild and have been featured in articles together.
There are many different schools of Feng Shui. I always recommend doing what feels good to you. If you’re wanting to add plants (wood energy) to the bedroom but are uncomfortable with real ones, you can use artificial ones (silk) that look real.
I personally don’t have plants in my bedroom yet I am surrounded by them outside (I live on Maui).
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